Ever met a people magnet? People are drawn to them? They can't seem to put a foot wrong? They seem to not only attract people but great opportunities. Maybe you call them "lucky". They seem to get what they want effortlessly. Ever wanted an ounce of whatever it is that makes them so irresistible?
Well, maybe you aren't a natural magnet. Maybe you try too hard or not hard enough... maybe your upbringing and background was not conducive to attracting anything positive... well, whatever your case, here are some ideas to help you.
First, lose the concept of "needing" something in your life. Have you noticed that whenever you feel you "need" something, it escapes you? Make sure the basics in your life are covered first, things like any special personal or financial requirements. This puts you in a place of not having to "need".
Allow yourself big dreams. Think big! Why shouldn't you have great luck and success? Other people, from all kinds of backgrounds, have succeeded by changing their thinking. Do dream! And dream big! And even if you end up only attracting half of what you "dreamt", you're way ahead of where you were before you started!
If you have a bucket with a hole in it and every time you try to fill it the water simply disappears through the hole, are you going to waste your time filling it or even trying to?
If you have holes anywhere in your life, fill them. The "universe" is not going to try and put anything in your "bucket" (life) if it's just going to go to waste and drain away. What do I mean by this? Respect your space. Put up boundaries where needed and learn to say no. Raise your standards. Heal any unresolved past issues in your life that you may be hanging on to. Where is your energy or positive thinking draining away? Whatever is causing it - plug it!
Hang around with more positive, attractive people. Learn from them. Ask for their help. Adopt their healthier, happier ways of being and doing. Think like they do. Emulate their strategies. It won't happen overnight but gradually you will notice the change in your own life!
Make sure you are very aware of good things when they do occur in your life and be appreciative and grateful for them, no matter how small. Say you meet two strangers in the desert. Both want water, which you give to them because you're nice. One of them acknowledges your kindness and thanks you profusely. The other wonders what took you so long to find them and forgets to thank you. If you met them again in the future and they both needed help of some kind, who would you think about helping first? Get the picture?
Want people to be attracted to you? Make yourself useful. Participate. Join in and offer whatever you have to offer.
Always be honest - tactful, but honest. Be a stand-up, trustworthy, honest person.
Drop the "ought to" and "shoulds" from your vocabulary and your life. We've been brought up with you ought to... and you should... and you have to... so much so that our own desires are smothered. It's time you took control of your own life and your own destiny - you're not here to live somebody else's life or vision or fulfill some other person's dreams. It's not possible so why waste your time trying. If somebody significant in your life who expects you to live that way does not like your new "I'm living my own life" philosophy, I'm sorry... that is THEIR problem, not yours!
So think big, raise your standards, be helpful, be honest, expect great things and live your life the way your "gut" tells you to live.
Terri Levine
http://www.coachinstitute.com
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