A Coaching Lesson

Ok, here is what happened a few weeks ago that I have to get out of my system. I was in a store and the line was slow, the cashier was new and was making mistakes. I was waiting and during the wait was visioning my goals and focusing on feeeeeeeeeeling my joy, and bascially enjoying the down time to just be.

A woman in front of me started yelling at the cashier. Then a man behind her began cursing at the cashier. Within a few seconds the entire line (except for me a few other folks) were yelling and complaining and carrying on.

This, of course, didn't help the cashier do better at the job, but instead put more stress and pressure on the cashier who now was slower.

The coaching lesson?

Live in flow. Let the things that happen, happen. They are all part of the wave of life. Stop rushing. Stop making other people wrong and just be and be in flow.

Terri Levine, PhD, MCC
www.TerriLevine.com
www.CoachInstitute.com

Coaching Skills You Need To Know: Reflecting Back

Reflecting back is a time-honored communication skill. Reflecting back means the listener fully listens and tunes into a speaker and then explains what they heard not only from the words but from underneath the words - from the feeeeeeeeeeeeeelings. After a person reflects back, the speaker can then clarify what they wanted to say or check that what they did say was what the listener got.

Before you reflect back it is important to quiet your mind (we have a GREAT visualization tool for this at www.CoachInstitute.com). The listener then tunes in and focuses on the type of language the speaker uses, the feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelings beneath the words and they hear the information with no reaction.

When the speaker is complete, the listener then shares what they heard, in a charge-neutral, non-judgmental way. After the listener shares what they heard they check in with the speaker by saying something like, "Do I get this right?"... or "Is this what you meant?"...

Reflecting back is not about debating what the speaker said. Reflecting back is a way to gain clarity.

Wouldn't it be cool if some readers posted what they heard me saying?

Terri Levine
www.CoachInstitute.com
www.TerriLevine.com

Become a Life Coach and Find Romance?

Yes by becoming a life coach you just might find you fall in love with yourself more, you have more love for others, you become more attractive to others and you have more friends, and more loving relationships.

I know that when I decided to become a life coach I had more time to just "be" with myself and to get more familiar with my positive aspects. I also had more self confidence and self worth. I liked myself more and took more time to care for myself.

I also opened up to people more wanted to know them and understand them and be with them. I attracted new friends, new community and even new hobbies in addition to my life coaching career.

My marriage became even stronger as I had more time to be with my husband. And without the everyday stress from a JOB and doing the work I really loved from my home, I was able to be more focused on him and our marriage. I got more compassion and more patient, too.

So if you want more loving, life coaching may just be your ticket!

Terri Levine
www.TerriLevine.com
www.CoachInstitute.com